Eight Months
It is coming on eight months now. I can't say it has gone fast or slow, the time seems to go by in waves. I am sure it is different for everyone, but there seems to be an emotional wall of about 3 or 4 months per trip segment at which time I begin to miss my family more and more. The first segment I was able to return home after close to 4 months and even then I could remember the feelings of increased anxiousness to see the family. I figured at that time it was just the knowledge that I would be returning that caused this, but now I believe this is time driven. By the time I see my family again, it would have been close to 6 months and I still have 2 more to go. This will be helped in some way by the fact that work is picking up more than ever and staying busy helps to keep my mind off of home for some of the time.
Food
I am now eating mostly at home, but still not doing a bit of cooking. The only thing that remains in my ice box is a month old Pizza Hut box, 2 or 3 bottles of water, and a Pepsi (although I prefer Coke). I usually get home about 9 or 10 and will usually walk up to Punjabi Rasoi and have a take-out prepared…maybe Chicken Tikka Masala with some Naan or some Chicken Tandori with some Chicken Biryani. The food will usually take me for 2 nights. I plan to go buy a tiffin so that I can start bringing my food to the office, something I don't even do in the US, as I tend to always eat our or in the cafeteria. The tiffin is the Asain lunch box and had 3 or 4 compartments (usually metal), round and they stack up to link together, putting a different food in each section. The cafeteria at the office only has veg and I need to have more meat in my diet.
I am starting to slowly come around to the veg dishes, the Kofta is one of my favorites with some romalli (think bread type which looks like a worn out wash cloth).
Wedding Season
The wedding season is in full swing and April and May are the big months. The weather is starting to cool down significantly, peaking in the middle of April. It has even started to rain a couple of times and that cools things down and keeps the dust low. I went to my first wedding yesterday. The groom instructed me to dress traditional, as he feared I might feel out of place. Putting on my kutra and a pair of kakhi's, I was picked up by my friend (who was wearing a button down shirt and slacks…non-traditional, as he didn't want me to feel uncomfortable) and we headed over. The wedding hall was about the size of a gymnasium with a couple hundred plastic chairs lined up in front of the stage. When we arrived (a token 15 minutes late), they had a reception line where all of the guests were walking across stage to congratulate the bride and groom. As a group of people would go up in batches, the photographer would snap a picture. The bride and groom were dressed in traditional attire; making the groom look wiser than his years, although looking much more relaxed than I remember on my wedding day.
People were coming and going while the ceremonies were going on, some going to eat at the food hall and others talking and having circle conversations, all a very casual experience, but very formal and traditional in the ceremonies. Of the couple hundred guests, probably a third were dressed in traditional Indian, while the rest were a mix of business casual and jean and a T-shirt. I was pleased to see one of the attendees arrive sporting the highly fashionable baseball cap with our company logo in it.
The main ceremony was provided by a hindu priest and his assistant. There were many parts which I still don't understand, but was getting some help with my guide. A fire was bought out in a 2'x2' brass container, fueled by wood and oils. The bride and groom would follow the guidance of the priest the whole time (no rehersal) and perform many acts such as tossing some [what looked like] puffed corn into the fire and regularly fueling the fire with some gee. Then the placement of the toe-ring on the bride by the mother, the placement of the wedding necklace on the bride by the groom, and the dabbing of some dye on the brides head at where the forehead and hair meet…all to signify that she was married.
I have invites for a handful more weddings of the next month and will try to make them. The food was all veg, and I hear the Muslim weddings have non-veg. One of the weddings is a Muslim wedding!
Back Pain and Sleeping
My back has not been doing so well as of the last couple weeks and the thin mattress is starting to wear on me. I take lots of aspirin before I go to sleep, hoping that the pain will subside enough for me to sleep through the night. Usually I can find that one position which will keep me pain free…on my side. I tried the other beds, but they didn't help; I think I will try to use the old 'death bed' mattress on top of the existing one to get some more support.
Each day, I have the cleaning woman come in, sometimes with a relative of hers. I came hope while they were cleaning the other day to find them bopping to music videos while they were cleaning; quite funny to see. I have a bowl of saunf (an after dinner sweet) which I keep on the shelf in the kitchen. I don't eat it that often (although love it), but each day I notice a little more is gone…and it is now almost empty. I need to refill it.